• An Open Letter About Infertility {Our Infertility Story Part 1}

    To my husband I've become emotionally closed off to..

    To my friend I've become distant with..

    To my family members I lied to when you asked me how I was doing..

    It's not you, it's me.

    Infertility has completely consumed me and my life. It's all I think about. I struggle day to day, to keep it together. Emotionally and physically. I'm exhausted. I'm exhausted waiting for the next appointment, waiting for the next set of blood work results, waiting for our next cycle. I'm exhausted having to put a smile on my face when I'm not happy.

    I'm sad. I'm angry. I'm frustrated.

    Why me? Is this my karma? Did I do this to myself? Have I treated my body in such a way that it's failing me?

    I want to be positive, I want to be hopeful but it's hard. I am at my breaking point and it's easier to close myself off to than fake my way through the day.

    I always knew I wanted to be a mom. Being the eldest of three younger siblings and two cousins I was always the designated babysitter and I was totally ok with that. I never had a set plan, or an age that this would happen.. I just knew that I wanted to be a mama. I don't know if there's some switch in our bodies that just clicks one day, or if it was being around all my sweet friends babies, or a combination of both. But when I decided that it was my turn, I like, REALLY wanted it to be my turn. Now granted our bodies are biologically programmed to reproduce, I realize this is probably a pretty normal way to feel.

    I had a gut feeling this would not be easy. Maybe, everyone initially thinks that. But I just had a feeling. And when it didn't happen right away for us, I just knew it was going to be an uphill battle.

    I don't know how to say this without coming off like an asshole, but when I want something.. I will get it. I will do whatever it takes, work how ever many hours, learn how to do the task, save how ever much it costs. Whatever it takes.

    So when there was nothing I could about our infertility, I didn't really know how to cope with it. [CUE diving head first into my entrepreneurial journey]

    After seeing a few useless doctors we were finally referred to the fertility clinic where we did about 642 tests to end up with then unsatisfying diagnosis of "unexplained" infertility. Maybe you're being quick to judge and just think we didn't try. Oh we tried. And if it was on google, in a book, on a podcast, in cosmopolitan, or your friend's cousin said it would help get you pregnant, we tried that too.

    We also tried 3 rounds of clomid, which gets like everybody pregnant right? You know, "insert name" had twins from clomid. That also failed us.

    So we were put on the waitlist for IVF. Waiting, waiting. Always waiting. I wanted the time to pass by as fast as it could that I let a whole year slip by without even knowing. Completely unaware.

    It was my 26th birthday and I couldn't be more thrilled to be starting my injections. Seems kind of odd right, someone wanting to inject themselves with needles.. and enjoy it! They weren't so bad. Fairly painless actually. I know a lot of women experience some pretty nasty side affects from the drugs but over all I was pretty lucky. Bloated to the point of extreme discomfort but that's basically it.

    My body ended up reacting SO well to the drugs that they were able to retrieve 23 eggies from me, and 21 of them fertilized. 

    They froze our sweet little eggies right away and we are now awaiting a frozen transfer... your good vibes are appreciated. Thank-you for the love + support.

    {To be continued...}

    *Side note... if you are on a fertility journey of your own and have questions, feel free to reach out. I know how intimidating it can be, and I know I spent a lot of time googling for answers. 

    - T





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  • Confessions Of A Entrepreneur

    Being an entrepreneur is hard work. In fact, it's the hardest I've ever worked in my entire life. "Start your own business!" they said, "it's the best" they said, working for yourself, making your own schedule..

    Well, here's what it's REALLY like being an entrepreneur....

    Yes yes yes! This new item is so awesome, I'm obsessed, everyones going to love it, for sure going to be the next best seller.

    *3 months go by, no one orders item, ends up gifting to Grandma*


    Yes yes yes! Prepped so many items for the re-stock, shop is full,  promised clients lots of inventory.

    *Sells out in 15 minutes*


    Me to me: how late is too late to stop drinking coffee? how early is too early to start drinking wine?


    Me to me: Are heart palpitations normal after drinking 6 cups of coffee?


    Me to friend: can you tell I've been using dry shampoo for 8 days?


    Ok, that's it, I'm full absolutely no more orders.

    *Oh you need a last minute gift by tomorrow, sure no problem*


    Me: Being an entrepreneur is amazing, I love what I do, this is freaking awesome.

    Also me: This is shit, I am shit.

    ~If I turn down one person my business is going to fail.


    While all the above is true, being an entrepreneur is still ah-freaking-mazing, and I know that I will never be able to go back to a job that isn't focused on furthering my own goals. BUT IT'S FREAKING HARD! There's a constant battle between not having enough hours in the day, not having enough product, not having enough hands, not having enough patience. Sometimes I question why I do what I do, but then I read the sweet comments and see the smiling faces when you guys pick up your orders and I am instantly reminded how truly blessed I am.

    Thank-you for your continued support on this crazy, wild, tough, entrepreneurial journey.


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  • SUPER EASY DIY Shiplap Wall Tutorial

    Good Morning Friends!

    I am super excited to share the EASIEST shiplap tutorial, like, ever!

    Re-doing my entry way has been on my to-do list for far too long. Client orders take precedence over projects for my own home and it just seems like there are never enough hours in the day.

    Thankfully, this project can be completed in one Sunday afternoon! So grab a cup of coffee and follow along.


    1/4" Plywood (I used sanded aspen it was on sale for 50% off, it was nice and smooth)

    Can of Behr Paint in Pure White Satin Finish

    1" Brad Nails

    Ryobi Cordless Brad Nailer

    3x  8 FT 1 x 6" Pine Boards (optional)

    Stud Finder




    I had home depot rip down my plywood into 8 FT long x 8" tall strips. You can totally choose your desired width. I squared up the first plank, used the stud finder to find the studs and nailed in the plank. Check your plank is level. Then I used a dime as a spacer. Repeat until finished. Then I began to apply the paint. I knew I was going to trim out the sides so I left them unpainted #lazyDIY for the win! My planks took 3 coats to fully cover.


    Then, you  need to decide what kind of shiplapper you are. (New buzz word, it's super fetch, watch for it) Type A - Super clean, modern finish or Type B - Rustic, distressed finish. I chose B. I wanted a more authentic feel so I did not fill my nail holes and I also distressed the planks.

    I'm crazy obsessed with how it turned out. It makes the space feel so much bigger and I love how bright and welcoming it is. For the shelving, I just purchased the brackets from home depot and stained a 1 x 8 pine board in classic grey. I feel like I want to shiplap ALL THE THINGS now!

    If you try a shiplap project in your home I'd love to see it! Feel free to tag me on Instagram @timberandgray


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  • The Timber + Gray Story

    Hey internet world I'm Tatum / the gal behind @timberandgray
    A bit about the biz: T+G basically stemmed from drinking too much wine and/or champagne while crafting. The crafts were basically an excuse to make me and my friends feel less guilty about drinking champagne at noon.
    2 and a bit years ago we moved into our new home and I attempted a few #DIY projects that eventually people asked if I could make one for them as well. While I'm not surprised that I ended up working creatively with my hands, the true reason I started my business page was because it kept my mind busy while trying for a baby.
    Slowly but surely, I began attempting larger projects, upgrading tools, reading books, stalked wood working forums and learned some tricks of the trade from my amazing Grandpa
    Fast forward to this present day. I just turned 26 and have held more jobs than some will hold in their lifetime. I truly admire my own ability to leave somewhere that I am unhappy. I'm  not surprised that I have ended up with my own small business. I have two generations of crazy successful business men to look up to & I think entrepreneurship is imbedded in our gene pool. I'm also incredibly independent + strong willed, so working for myself just makes sense.
    So there you have it. The story of how Timber+ Gray came to be. And if you caught the part about trying for a baby, as you can see, we are not there yet but thanks to my AMAZING clients we have been able to pay for fertility treatments and are so looking for to what the future has in store for us. If you didn't fully understand the importance of shopping small/local/handmade I hope that you can see just how much it means to us ❤️

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  • Rustic Home Reno Inspiration

    We moved into our current house almost 2 years ago now & have been renovating since day one! Literally. We started painting on our possession date. It has a really neat layout, and unlike most of the houses on our street it was unique. The style was a bit outdated so we had to put some elbow grease in to make it our own! Today I am sharing some rustic renovation inspiration with you. 








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  • Tips For Updating Your Decor

    Things change, people change & trends change! One of the blessings (& curses) about being able to make my own furniture is that I change my decor style ALOT. Here is a list of tips that I use when changing up my decor.

    1. De-clutter. This is single handedly the most useful tip I can give you. Get rid of clutter and get rid of the pieces that no longer suit your style! You'll feel amazing with a "blank slate."

    2. Find an inspiration piece. Whether it's a vintage clock you bought, a piece of art you own, or even a label you like the colours on ~ find one item that will help you plan your room out. For example: I found this copper ornament at home sense that inspired my recent bathroom renovation. It helped me find other pieces & pull everything together. 

    3. Plan it out. Spend some time on pinterest looking at different layouts. Make some drawings. Use tape on the walls where you would be hanging stuff. If it flows the way you want it to great, if it doesn't at least you haven't made holes in the wall where you don't need them (speaking from experience).

    4. A can of paint works wonders. It really can change the entire feel of a room, without spending a ton of dough. It is the easiest way to update without having to purchase all new furniture or decor. My favourite GRAY tones that I used in my house are: Behr Cathedral Grey, Behr Polar Bear & Sherwin Williams Sea Salt.

    5. Do what you can, within your budget. I know personally, when I want something done I want it done yesterday. Recently I have taken the time to chip away at updates & purchase unique pieces here and there whenever I find a good deal. Don't pressure yourself into updating your whole house in one day. Take your time and hunt for those deals! Some of my favourite places to shop for decor are: Wayfair, Home Sense, Winners, Timber & Gray, Value Village & Good Will. 

    I hope you find these tips useful! We offer a number of different design services that can help bring your pinterest dreams to life. Contact us to discuss!


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